Is It Ever Okay to Email Thank-You Notes?

Etiquette, Invites & Stationery

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The 21st century has given brides the technological capabilities to suit every wedding whim. But where do thank-you notes fall in the technology versus tradition debate? Our etiquette experts weigh in.

Thank-you notes are as essential to a wedding as the invitations or save-the-date cards. However, while tradition dictates that you select signature stationery and uncap your best calligraphy pen, many of us are more accustomed to typing out a quick email instead. Unfortunately for tech addicts, you must send a hand-written note. Even if your penmanship is less than lovely, demonstrating your appreciation for a gift in writing is more personalized and meaningful.

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Plus, differentiating between your older and younger shower guests by the format of thank-you note you send is a recipe for disaster. Your younger attendees might actually appreciate a beautiful card more than a quick email, and honoring written tradition only for older guests might give the appearance that you doubt their technological know-how. Take the opportunity to experiment with beautifully designed stationery and practice the lost art of penmanship. As long as your notes are thoughtful, succinct, and tailored to each guest, spending hours on each isn't necessary. Your friends and family will value the effort that was channeled into each card. Perhaps 2016 will be the year that ecards become an acceptable form of post, but for now, snail mail is your best bet.

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