The Art of Politely Turning Down Your Friend's Offer to Bake Your Wedding Cake

Cakes, Etiquette
Decline Friend's Offer To Design Wedding Cake

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Your friends may be indispensible when it comes to their love and support at your wedding, but the same may not be said for their well-intentioned cooking experiments. A bride has enough to worry about on her big day without wondering if she'll have to reprimand the maid of honor for a lopsided, three-tiered cake. But how do you gracefully tell a close friend that you don't require her services for your wedding?

If you've dreamt of working with a certain pastry pro to create his or her signature dessert since your fifth birthday, your wedding is the perfect time to indulge. While a pal volunteering her services for your wedding is an incredible gesture, it in no way obligates you to say yes. When declining her offer, simply explain to your friend that you already have a company in mind for the task, but you'd love to include her baking skills in another facet of the wedding. If you're pressed for more specifics, keep your answers positive and friendly, making sure to tell her how much you appreciate her offer and her pastry mastery.

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If she is still interested in contributing her handiwork to the celebration, ask if she could bake cupcakes for your rehearsal dinner, or sweet treats for your bridal shower. Your BFF will still feel as though she's contributed to your big-day festivities, and you won't feel guilty enjoying your professionally-designed wedding cake.

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