Does Your Future Sister-in-Law Have to Be Your Bridesmaid?

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Choosing your bridal party should be one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning, but when you don't feel close to your future sister-in-law, you might be torn over whether or not you should ask her to be a bridesmaid. Here, out etiquette expert weighs in on whether or not you need to ask your fiancé's sister to be in your bridal party.

Here's the short answer: Yes, you need to ask your future sister-in-law to be part of the big day, even if you don't feel particularly close to her.

Here's the long answer: We're not telling you to make her the maid of honor, but she deserves a place in your bridal party regardless of how you feel about her. Think about it: Your future sister-in-law is always going to be a part of your life and there's nothing worse than starting off a new marriage with tension in the family.

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We get that if you were wondering if she had to be part of the bridal party then this is probably not what you wanted to hear, but regardless of your personal feelings towards her, it's rude to exclude her from the big day.

There's also a silver lining. Since you'll likely be spending lots of time together during the next few months, there's a possibility this will bring you two closer together in the long run. Plus, it will probably make your fiancé happy, too. Think how you would feel if your future husband didn't ask your beloved brother to be one of his groomsmen — probably not pleased. Do the right thing and everyone will be happy.

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