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Sure, figuring our your guest list isn't as fun as, say, shopping for your wedding dress or the cake-tasting, but the paring-down process can be a whole lot easier than you think. The key is to make a set of cutting rules — and actually stick to them until you reach your magic number. Deciding on a set of rules you and your groom both agree on is the hard part, but if you're able to stick to your guns (no wavering!), ultimately you'll save yourselves a whole lot of stress and drama in the long run, guaranteed. What do we mean by cutting rules? Here are a few common ones that we've seen used with great success — mull them over together and figure out the ones that will work best for you.
If the person's phone number is not saved on your cell phone, then it's been too long since you've talked.
No dates you've never met before.
When it comes to children, set an age limit — say, only kids 12 or older are invited. Or restrict your list to the children of immediate family members and/or children of members of the wedding party.
No second cousins.
The one-year rule: No friends you haven't spoken to in more than a year.
Parents' friends: If you've never met or heard their name before, they aren't invited.
Anyone who's on the list only because you feel guilty about leaving them off — maybe because you were invited to their wedding or they're friends with lots of people who are invited.