What's Worth (and Not Worth) Worrying About

Planning Tips, Wellness
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It's all too easy to get caught up in every wedding-related detail as if it was a matter of life or death — and let's be honest, some, such as your dress, basically are! But there are a few things that, with the advantage of hindsight, some brides wish they had never given a second thought. Here, three dish on what was worth the worry, and what simply wasn't.

Worth It: Stressing Over the Back-Up Plan
"I am so glad we had a rain plan," one bride says. "It was something we went back and forth on many times, because the only rain plan available to us through our venue cost an extra — and very hefty — fee. Plus, I wasn't planning an outdoor wedding to have our ceremony inside!" But, after much debate and rearranging her budget, the bride paid the extra cost and opted to reserve an indoor ballroom in addition to an uncovered space beside a vineyard. When it began to drizzle just minutes before she would have walked down the grass aisle, the bride was glad she spent the extra money.

Not Worth It: Stressing Over Chairs
She wasn't, however, worried post-wedding about how she cut costs to make room in her budget for the back-up plan. "I had my mind set on Chiavari chairs for the ceremony, because I feel like everyone chooses the white garden chairs. But at $2 more per chair, we scrapped our plans for the Chiavari chairs and settled on the white ones our venue had available," the bride says. "Do you think I noticed those chairs on my wedding day? Nope. And I also don't focus on them when I look at our photos. I can't believe I was upset over chairs when making the switch saved us nearly $400!"

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Worth It: Stressing Over the Dress
This bride wanted to find the perfect dress, so even after slipping on dozens of "perfectly beautiful but not perfect for me" gowns, she explains, she pressed on. "My mom finally pulled me aside one day and said, 'You've looked gorgeous in at least 10 dresses, and it's probably about time you choose one of those,'" she recalls. "I started to worry I was a crazy, like, it can't be this hard for someone to fall in love with a dress, right? It took me three months to find it, but when I did, I knew immediately it was The One. Even though it eventually became really stressful to keep searching, I can't imagine having worn anything different for our wedding."

Not Worth It: Stressing Over Family Logistics
"Have you ever seen those really awkward aisle walks, with a mom on one side and the dad on the other, and the bride looks like a waddling penguin in the middle?" a bride, married now six months, asks. "Well, I was petrified that was how I would look if I walked down the my mom and my dad. But my parents are divorced, and I'm actually a lot closer to my mom than I am to my dad. I almost didn't ask her to walk with us because I was so scared of looking stupid. But can I tell you how glad I am that I got over it? Not only did we not look stupid, but my mom totally deserved to give me away."

Worth It: Stressing Over the Honeymoon
"Every hour, every penny that went into planning that trip was totally worth it," a bride says. "Is it shameful to admit there may have been a spreadsheet weighing the pros and cons of each destination? But ultimately, because we took the time to explore every place and option, we found incredibly good deals and were able to travel to three European countries over two weeks."

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