How to Handle Disapproving Parents

Etiquette, Moms, Relationships
How To Handle Disapproving Parents

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Your engagement is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, but unfortunately, if your family disapproves of your future union, it can also become the most stressful. Whether it's religious, cultural, age, or other reasons, you have to handle a negative parent with extreme tact. Here, how to handle your family when they disapprove of your marriage.

Fore reasons of their own, some parents, unfortunately just can't get behind their child's wedding. This can be devastating for obvious reasons, if you have a relationship with your family, you'll of course want them to be involved, and excited, for this major milestone in your life. More often than not, a parent's negative take on this joyous occasion come from anxiety for you. If you're having an interfaith marriage, are they concerned about your religion and their future grandkids? Maybe there's a large age gap, and they want to make sure you'll be taken care of no matter what. Of course, socio-economic concerns and cultural divides also arise.

So how exactly do you ease their qualms? First, don't jump to anger. Remain cool, calm, collected and most importantly confident about your relationship to your fiancé. Find out what exactly is irking them and ease those concerns. Remind them how strongly you feel about this relationship, how happy you are, and that this has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you. Explain how much their participation and encouragement means in your big day, and that you hope over time they'll change their minds. The more confident you are, and the calmer you remain, the more they will take you and your concerns seriously.

And remember: at the end of it all, this is your day. If you're truly happy in your relationship, don't let anything get you and your wedding down.

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