Easy Ways to Calm Your Guy's Nerves on the Wedding Day

Ways to Calm a Nervous Groom

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Pre-wedding jitters happen to the best of us — your groom included. While nerves before the big day are totally understandable, quashing his fears before the wedding will make those "I dos" even sweeter. L.A.-based wedding planner Jeff Brown has the cure for anything that might be stressing your husband-to-be before the big day. Follow his top tips for easing your guy's nerves about four common topics that might be weighing on his mind.

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He's stumped on writing his own vows.
Ask him to jot down a love letter to you instead; it will help him tap into his feelings without all the pressure of formality. If he's still terrified, just go old school and recite traditional by-the-book vows. No shame in it — 53-percent of couples do!

He's afraid to do the first dance in front of everyone.
Whether you take lessons or not, promise him you'll have to dance only the first part of the song before inviting the rest of the guests to join you. And schedule the first dance at the start of the evening so he won't have to dread it for half the reception.

His best man is too drunk to deliver his toast.
Skip it, and have him discreetly ask another groomsman to escort Walter Waster away from the party and off to a private room to sober him up.

He has stage fright over delivering his own speech.
Suggest doing a couple's speech instead. That way, he'll need to just stand by your side as you charm the crowd, then hold your hand and swoop.

Pick up our December 2014/January 2015 issue starring model Elyse Taylor on newsstands today or download it here for more of our guide to the groom!

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