What to Do If You Don't Want to Wear a Veil, But Your Mother Insists You Do

Etiquette, Jewelry & Accessories

Wearing a veil is a common wedding-day tradition that more and more modern brides are choosing to skip. And though you may have decided to not wear the cover up down the aisle on your big day, your mom may have other plans. If your mom wants you to wear her veil for sentimental reasons, but you weren't planning on it, here's what you can do.

First thing is first; if you don't want to wear a veil, you don't have to. Simple solution, right? Well, if your mom is pressuring you otherwise it might not be.

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Entertain the idea by trying on the veil with your wedding dress. That way you'll get to see what it looks like together — you never know, it might look amazing! Also, your mom will appreciate the gesture (and love seeing you wear it). Giving the topper a test drive will show that you're not totally ignoring her wishes.

After you try it on, explain to your mom that you're honored that she asked you to wear it, but it just doesn't fit in with your big-day vision. Hopefully, she'll understand.

If you don't totally hate the look, consider compromising with your mom. Could you wear the veil for photos, but take it off before you walk down the aisle? Or perhaps you could wear it for a bit during the reception? But remember: what you wear on your big day is ultimately up to you.

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