Ask a Professional Bridesmaid: Can I Get a Plus One?


Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates. In her monthly column for Jen answers a fellow bridesmaid's burning question.

All of my friends are married. The ones that aren't, are engaged and will be married between now and 2017. Sounds fun, right? Right, well, if I had a plus one. But I don't. I'm the perpetually single one of the group and because of the old rule: you only get a plus one if you are in a serious relationship (a ring is on its way) or married, I'm excluded. My best friend from college is getting married in three months and I'm scared to ask her if I can bring someone. Can I do that?

Can I get an amen? Amen. I always cringe a little when I'm invited to a wedding and the invitation isn't addressed to Ms. Jen Glantz and Guest. By now, I'm usually one of the only single gals there, and while that comes with some perks: catching the bouquet without competition, dibs on which weird uncle to dance with, and not having to worry about taking care of a drunk date, it also kind of stinks.

You know what I say to those age-old etiquette rules? Go bother someone in your own time period. It's 2014, darling, and we don't just sit silently when something is wrong. We open our mouth, errr, our laptops and say it in 140 words or less. So say something. If this is really one of your closest friends and you really are one of the only single gals left in your flock of friends, ask her if you can bring someone along with you so you're not spending the night rolling your eyes at all the married couples or slow dancing with yourself.

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Ask her if it's possible, when the wedding gets closer and she has a better sense of her numbers, if you could bring someone. (The bride may be inviting more people than she has room or money for, so maybe when it's closer and she has a better sense of who is coming she'll say yes.) Also tell her that one day she's going to be a guest at your wedding and she automatically gets a plus one, her husband, so how about you get one too, now, and we'll call it even.

Worse case is she says the big fat N-O and you're stuck doing the "Gangnam Style" dance with a bunch of married couples and their toddlers. That doesn't sound so awful, does it?

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