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Destination weddings are amazing, but they can also be financial burden for some of your guests — which means you may receive more than a few RSVP cards with the "regretfully decline" box checked off. So should you change your dream destination wedding to a local one if your best friends can't afford the plane ticket? Our etiquette experts weigh in on the common bridal dilemma.
I'm set on having a destination wedding, but many of my friends can't afford to travel far. Is it selfish of me to have it anyway?
No, not at all! Of course you want all of your loved ones there to celebrate your big day, but you have to remember that it is your wedding. You want this day to be everything you've ever wanted, right? So don't sacrifice your dream location for the sake of a few people. Instead, throw the celebration you've always envisioned and invite everyone. (It's still a nice gesture to send an invitation even if you know the guest won't be able to attend.) Then after the wedding, throw a smaller party at home to celebrate with those who could not attend. This way you can have the best of both worlds! If you maxed out your wedding budget on your beachside nuptials in the Caribbean or Parisian party, don't worry — your second celebration does not need to be nearly as lavish as your first reception.
Also, it's important to remember to not take it personally if someone can't attend. After all, traveling afar can be expensive!