Is It Ever Okay to Ask for Money Instead of Wedding Gifts?


When planning your big you have to start thinking about many things — wedding registries included. But what happens if you and your fiancé already live together and have everything you need for your home? You surely don't need another blender or another set of silverware, but is it okay to skip the traditional registry and ask for cash instead? Our etiquette expert weighs in on this popular conundrum.

My fiancé and I have lived together for a long time so we don't need to register for anything. Can we ask for money?
Unfortunately, as much as you want to, asking for money is a huge no-no. (It's actually one of our top wedding-etiqutte don'ts!) So how do you avoid receiving a vacuum or another set of kitchen knives? Register for experiences instead. Want to take ballroom dance classes? How about a culinary workshop? You can even register for outdoor adventures — the sky is the limit (seriously though, you can even add skydiving to the list if that is your preference) thanks to cool new registry websites like Zola and Blueprint Registry. You can also ask guests to donate to your honeymoon fund through sites like Honeyfund.

See more: The 24 Best Places to Register

If you really want cash, spread the news via word-of-mouth by letting your bridal party and close family members know — never, ever print it anywhere on your invites or wedding website. Also, help your less tech-savvy guests out by registering for a few traditional items. After all, you can always use a spare set of sheets or towels.

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