What's the Appropriate Age for a Flower Girl or Ring Bearer?

Etiquette, Kids

Including children in your wedding is a must. Not only do the little ones make for some adorable photo ops, but they also have a big responsibility: Typically they carry those very important wedding rings down the aisle or prep the aisle with pretty petals for your grand entrance. But what's the appropriate age for your flower girl or ring bearer? After all, you don't want a crying baby disrupting the ceremony or a kid who refuses to walk down the aisle when the time comes.

How young is too young for a flower girl or ring bearer? My nephew is only two and half years old, but I'd love to include him!

This is a question that pops up time after time again. Usually flower girls and ring bearers range from ages three to eight years old. But don't let that stop you from giving those roles to someone younger. Keep in mind, though, that the younger the child, the more unpredictable his or her behavior will be. Your two-and-half-year-old nephew, in this case, is probably more prone to throw a tantrum than a well-behaved five year old. An easy solution? Ask your nephew's mom or dad to accompany him down the aisle or to be there to assist if anything goes awry. You know your nephew best so if you think he can walk on his own, let him.

And remember: What's the worst that can happen? A little one's quirkiness is what makes him or her cute in the first place! Your guests will enjoy themselves either way.

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