9 Brides Reveal the Wedding Traditions They'd Like to See Disappear

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Wedding are built on tradition. And for some couples, those customary acts and gestures can be deeply meaningful or downright stifling. They may have a personal beef with a certain rituals or simply object on a theoretical level. We asked our readers to reveal which traditions they'd like to see go away for good.

"Smashing cake in the face. Why mess up the pricey clothes and your faces?" — Tanya G.

"My husband and I didn't have a garter toss at our wedding. The idea of having him climb up under my dress in front of our parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles just made us both so uncomfortable! Save it for the private show later. It's more fun that way!" —Kirsten H.

"Bouquet toss just to single women. I threw mine to everyone!" — Emma K.

See More: The History of Four Popular Wedding Traditions, From the Garter Toss to the Color of Your Gown, Explained

"The clinking of glasses to make the couple kiss. At our wedding we did 'kissing for a cause.' We put out cards on the table saying, 'Instead of clinking glasses, use your spare change and make a donation to a cause. You pick a charity.' We had a jar up at the head table and kissed when people came up to donate."— Kayla

"I won't be 'given away' because this isn't the middle ages." — Robyn A.

"The newer tradition of 'trash the dress.' I'm not spending thousands on a dress and then trashing it." — Charlotte J.

"The dollar dance. Tacky!" — Ava S.

"We didn't adhere to the old 'can't see each other for 24 hours before the ceremony' tradition. We were together up until I went to get my hair done and put my dress on. And my son gave me away. I felt as though he was the only one that I truly belonged to. I'm the only mom my son will ever have, and he had to know that he was a big part of our ceremony!" — Evelylena Y.

"In Denmark, after the first dance, it is tradition that the male guests take the grooms socks and tie and cut them up with scissors. And the female guests take the veil and tear it apart. It is supposed to bring the female guests happiness, to have a piece of the veil. But it seems like a stupid tradition to break things." — Fabienne A.

Which wedding traditions do you wish would go away? Tweet us @BRIDES!

Jolène M. Bouchon is a regular contributor to Brides.com and a freelance writer.

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