10 Dos and Don'ts of Thank-You Notes

Dos Donts Thank You Notes

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Two of the most important things to know about your wedding thank-you notes is that every gift should be acknowledged in writing and that every acknowledgement should be prompt. Whether you receive a tangible item from your registry, something off of your honeymoon registry, a social event in your honor, a gift of time or talent, or money, you must express gratitude. Personal, hand-written thank-yous remain the gold standard of courtesy in this digital age. Aside from that, there are still other basics you need to keep in mind. Here they are:

Do personalize your notes, making reference to the person as well as the gift.

Do be enthusiastic, but you don't need to gush. Avoid saying that the gift is the most beautiful thing you've ever seen, unless you mean it.

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Don't send form letters or cards with printed messages and just your signature; don't use e-mail or post a generic thank-you on Facebook or your wedding website in lieu of personal notes.

Don't mention that you plan to return or exchange a gift or indicate dissatisfaction in any way.

Don't tailor notes to the perceived value of gifts. No one should receive a dashed-off, perfunctory note.

Do refer to the use you will make of money gifts. Mentioning the amount is optional.

Don't include wedding photos or use photo cards if this will delay sending notes.

Do promptly acknowledge receipt of shipped gifts; either send your thank-you within a few days or call or e-mail the sender—following up with a written note soon.

Don't use lateness in writing as an excuse not to write. If you're still sending thank-you notes after your first anniversary, keep writing.

Do remember that a gift should be acknowledged with the same courtesy and generous spirit in which it was given.

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