Plus-Ones: Who Should Get Them, and When It's Okay to Go Solo


Guest lists are tough enough to whittle down, so plus-ones can make them even more complicated (and costly). Especially for those who don't want any strangers at their wedding or are on a tight budget, accommodating people's partners or new dates doesn't sound too appealing. Lucky for you, our etiquette experts are outlining who should get a plus one, and who shouldn't.

Etiquette deems that plus-ones only need to go to those who are established couples: We're talking guests who are married, engaged, or are a known couple of years (say live together, or have been together for more than a year). These couples should be jointly addressed — if the bride and groom don't know the other person's name, they should reach out to their friend and find out.

You don't have to offer plus-ones to everyone: But if you're feeling generous, go ahead. Just make sure to confirm the date's name with your friend and send an invite to them too. You can also offer a plus-one option on your invite if you want to save costs and paper. The only benefit to sending out a separate invitation is that single guests won't feel pressured to find a date just for your wedding.

As for guests without plus-ones, don't feel pressured to find one: It's totally ok to attend a wedding solo. In fact, it's probably the nicer thing to do if you're unattached and have to scramble to find someone to bring along. Better yet, this opens you up to meeting others flying solo at the wedding. Who knows, maybe you can hit it off!

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