How to Gently Let Coworkers Know They're Not Invited to the Wedding

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Coworkers and weddings — they are probably one of the trickiest combos out there. While you spend majority of your time at your office, it's impossible for most brides to include everyone in their big-day festivities. And, at the same time, you'll want to share with your work friends this exciting milestone. But what happens when some of your office mates assume they are invited to watch you say "I do?" Here, our etiquette experts weigh in on how to delicately let down coworkers who think they are invited to your wedding when they actually aren't.

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Let's say Sue, a woman you've worked with on a few projects, keeps approaching you with questions about your wedding date, hotel information, and registry list, even though Sue isn't invited to your wedding. Neither is Dan, who sits five desks away and talks to you on an every other week basis, but, keeps making comments about he's "so excited for your wedding!" While it's definitely rude for anyone to assume an invite to someone's special day, you'll still have to figure out a delicate way to let them down gently. Aside from the fact that you see these people daily, there's no reason to be nasty. So, what's the cure-all for fending off assuming non-guests? These two magical words: "small wedding." Even if you're whole hometown will be crowding into your church, thank them for their excitement, tell them you appreciate the sentiment, but you'll be having a very small wedding, just a few family and friends. Hopefully after repeating this a few times, they'll take the hint.

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