The Other Man: Should You Keep Your Opposite Sex Friendships After Marriage?


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We've got good news: Just because you've said "I do" doesn't mean you have to chuck your friendships with the opposite sex. In fact, some experts believe keeping them after your wedding day will only enrich the relationship you have with the number one man in your life.

"I can tell you that the wives with the highest marital satisfaction have a tight circle of wild and warm friends — men and women — that feed the many arteries of their lives," says Iris Krasnow, relationship expert and author of Sex After: Women Share How Intimacy Changes As Life Changes. "If your fiancé tells you that you must ditch your platonic friendships with the opposite sex, that is a fire-red flag about the trust and jealousy issues that will develop in your marriage."

Opposite-sex, platonic relationships can be, according to Krasnow, "a sexy pick-me-up without the complications of sex and adultery. Women who love the company of men shouldn't have to eliminate male friends from their lives; these extra-marital males who always think we're smart and beautiful — because because they don't live with us! — are actually a relief for any smart husband. Because these benign boyfriends that offer insights and advice from a masculine perspective, it means less work for the man you're married to."

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But now that you know you can keep the "other" men in your life, there are a few other things to keep in mind:

Nurture a friendship with your husband, too.
Make sure you aren't telling other men things you can't tell him, or relying on them for the emotional support your husband should be providing.

Have strong same-sex friendships.
While it's totally cool to have a go-to guy friend, he shouldn't be the only friend you keep on speed dial.

Make sure your husband knows all your male friends.
Additionally, he should be comfortable with the level of intimacy and attention you give your guy friends.

If you're married, do you have many male friends? Why or why not? Let us know on Twitter at @BRIDES!

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