How Not to Have an Awkward First Kiss

Ceremony & Vows, Relationships
Tips for a Not Awkward First Kiss

Photo: Neal Peters Collection

You've made out with your guy a million times so you figure your first kiss will be a breeze; you've totally got this. Then the wedding finally arrives and your stomach is all in knots and you just bumped heads trying to lock lips in front of everyone. Unfortunately, it happens to the best of us. To avoid a potentially embarrassing moment on your big day (albeit a really funny story later down the line), heed the advice of these wedding planners, who know all too well about first kiss awkwardness.

Practice makes perfect
The easiest way to approach your first kiss, according to Tracie Domino, founder of Tracie Domino Events, is to treat it like you're on stage and practice, practice, practice. "Know what foot you will step forward with and where your arms will go," she says. "Also, it's critically important to kiss longer than you think is necessary to ensure the photographer gets a great shot. If it's a quick peck, they could miss it!" (Think Drew Barrymore in the Wedding Singer — she practices several different types of first kiss with Robbie before her big day! But you should probably practice with your actual groom ...)

Do stay true to yourself though
Keep in mind that this is the man of your dreams, not some hunky actor on screen, so if you don't give long, passionate kisses in real life, you may not want to do so on your wedding day, warns Greg Jenkins, founder of Bravo Productions. "When you make drastic or severe changes at a moment's notice or catch someone by surprise, there is a greater chance that an awkward situation will be created," he notes. Which brings us to our next point...

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Don't surprise each other
If your guy plans on doing something a little extra, like a dramatic dip, during the first kiss, make sure you're both on board and know about it beforehand, advises Blake Bush, associate wedding planner and event designer at Pure Luxe Bride. Otherwise, you might wind up on the ground!

Stop overthinking it
Practice makes perfect but only if the final kiss both looks and feels natural. "I always tell my clients to never overthink any given moment of the ceremony and to do what comes natural," says wedding planner Alicia Falango, owner of Alicia K Designs in San Francisco. "This gives them less to 'remember'. It's when they are trying to do everything correctly that they fumble and are unnatural," she points out.

Hug it out
Speaking of keeping it natural, Crystal Lequang, owner at Amazae Special Events, suggests hugging first and then going into the kiss. "Often we get so fixated on the kissing part that we don't realize that we usually embrace before we kiss anyone."

Ask your pastor or officiant to step aside
Although it probably won't be that weird having someone standing behind you while you lock lips, you might not like how the pictures turn out after the fact. Instead, Bush recommends politely asking your pastor or officiant to step aside for the pic because, let's be real, who wants an officiant photo bombing your first kiss!?

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