Do You Really Need to Open Gifts During a Bridal Shower?

Etiquette, Showers & Parties
Bridal shower etiquette tips

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Bridal showers often throw brides — and guests — for a loop. From whose hosting, to who pays, and figuring out the rules of gift-giving, there's a lot left up in the air for this traditional pre-wedding event. But one element of the bridal shower that has stood the test of time and tradition is the custom of opening gifts in front of guests. For some, though, this is one custom they'd wish to skip — it is, after all, time consuming! Here, our etiquette experts weigh in on the event's necessity.

I'm throwing a large bridal shower for my friend. Do we really have to have her open all of her gifts during the party?
The opening of gifts is a bridal shower attraction in and of itself, with guests ooh-ing and aaah-ing at the items purchased for the future Mrs. Propped on a big chair, the bride is supposed to open each gift with a huge smile and put the ribbon from it somewhere on her person. But, depending on the number of guests, it can take a lot of time. Obviously, you aren't constrained to the conventions of tradition, but you may anger a mom, aunt, or grandma by completely dismissing an important moment in the bride's pre-wedding fete. One really great way to save up time from gift-opening, but appease those who look forward to it? Have the bride unwrap presents at the end. Before she starts tearing open cooking sets and monogrammed towels, make sure to thank all of the guests for coming and announce that the bride and family will open gifts following the shower, and all who want to stay are welcome. That way, those guests that want to leave get to exit scot-free, while those who want to indulge in presents can stay for the fun.

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