A Bride's Guide to E-mail Etiquette


We're all about digital weddings, from live-streaming your vows to having a cute wedding hashtag. But when it comes to e-mail, even if it slashes your budget, things get a little dicier. Just because you can send an e-mail doesn't mean you always should. For instance, it's never a good idea to e-mail a wedding invitation or a thank-you note. On the other hand, it's a very acceptable option for other circumstances. We found some etiquette expert-approved situations in which you should by all means start messaging your guests.

I want to save money on some part of my wedding stationery. Can I e-mail my save-the-dates?
Absolutely. Many couples, once they've pinned down their wedding day, choose to send out an early informal note alerting friends and family to put that date aside. It's perfectly fine to e-mail this note.

Is it ok to e-mail lodging information later on if my hotel can't confirm a block of rooms until closer to the wedding date?
Yes, and this is also a good way to avoid overloading the mailing even if you know about your hotel block in advance. Also, feel free to e-mail information on restaurants and points of interest. For those of your guests who prefer web communication, a group e-mail is ideal for this purpose.

Thoughts on including an e-mail address on my invitations for RSVPs?
It's perfectly acceptable to give your guests the option of e-mailing their responses to you. Just make sure that it's an option. Simply add a printed sentence at the bottom of your printed response card saying, "You may also reply by way of our e-mail address, which is happycouple@rsvp.com." This is especially appropriate in the case of a last-minute wedding, if you are planning a relatively informal wedding, or if you're already in regular e-mail contact with many of your invited guests.

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