5 Ways to Get the Groom Involved That Won't Feel Like Torture

Grooms, Planning Tips

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Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007. Here she shares ways to get your fiancé excited about wedding planning.

There are some grooms out there who are fully-engaged in the wedding-planning process, but most guys are more concerned about the booze and the music than the wedding favors and the centerpieces — and that's okay.

What's not okay is if your fiancé's lack of interest in your wedding planning is causing the two of you to fight. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun. If you want him to be a part of things, here are a few easy ways to do it:

Cake tasting: Unless he doesn't have a sweet tooth, the groom should have fun tasting multiple flavors of cake with you. Even if you're having a destination wedding, you can taste cake at a hometown bakery and then use the desserts for your at-home party later.

Picking a signature cocktail: You can do this at your favorite bar together. Go at a quiet time when the bartender can play with you and try all sorts of fun combinations your caterer has suggested or that you found on Pinterest. (Be sure to take a cab.)

See More: This Is What Happens When You Let a Guy Plan the Wedding

Plan the music together: Sometimes if the groom is a music-oriented guy, he'll even take the lead on this one. Just make sure to give him the list of songs you want to hear, too.

Registering: Sure, you could probably do it online and save yourself some time. And he may not be jazzed about the shopping trip initially. But if you make an appointment with the store on a slow day (not a Saturday in holiday season), your groom will have too much fun with that zapper gun choosing presents. Let him zap away at anything and everything and tell him you'll edit it down later.

Seating charts: The groom may care about which folks on his side are seated where, and those suggestions from him may just help you finish up whatever lingering seating-chart questions you had. Let him play with it and try not to argue with him about his decision unless you can't help it.

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