Beyond the Thank-You Note: People You Definitely Need to Thank

Etiquette
wedding thank you notes

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As you write thank-you notes after your wedding, remember that not all gifts come wrapped in pretty paper! Though most, if not all, guests will surely give you a present from your wedding registry, there are other loved ones who have go above and beyond with support during wedding planning that definitely deserve some extra-special appreciation. The following categories include both gift givers and the people who make a wedding special through their efforts and goodwill.

People who do kindnesses for you
The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you're at work, the cousin who supervises guest parking at the reception — anyone who assists you during your preparations, the wedding itself, and after the big event should be graciously thanked. It's also nice to send notes to your officiant and anyone else (the organist or music director, for instance) who worked with you on the ceremony, even though you've paid them the customary fee.

Suppliers and vendors
You don't have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.

People who entertain for you
When there is more than one host for a shower or party, write to each person or couple. These notes should go out no later than two days after the event. The one exception is when a large number of people in your office or workplace host a shower or party in your honor and give a group gift. While it's preferable to thank everyone with an individual note, it is acceptable to write to the organizer or organizers only. Be sure your note includes your appreciation for everyone's participation. The person who receives your note should forward it to coworkers or post it in a common area. But if individual presents are given, write individual notes.

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