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Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. Unfortunately though, unexpected circumstances sometimes arise. Whether it's due to illness, death, bad weather, or any other kind of unforeseen situation, a change in wedding date means you have to let your family and guests know ASAP. If a wedding must be canceled or postponed after invitations have gone out, let everyone know with printed cards rush-ordered from a stationer. Here, a few situations and how to handle them:
There's been a death in the family and I'd like to reduce my large wedding to something just for immediate family and close friends. How do I say this?
Send out a card saying something along these lines:
The above wording indicates that the wedding will not take places as planned. The death means that a large wedding would be inappropriate, but the marriage will still take place as a small family ceremony. The couple may dress in their formal wedding attire, but the only attendants to participate are the honor attendants.
I need to postpone my wedding to a different date, but I don't want to disclose the reason. Do I have to tell guests why?
Not if it's very personal. If it's a venue or vendor problem, you might feel differently. Only tell close family and friends if they ask and you feel comfortable doing so. Regardless, handle it thusly:
I have to cancel my wedding. How do I let everyone know?
If there's time, recall the invitations with engraved or printed cards. If time is short, recall your invitations with personal notes, or by phone or e-mail. Calls are made in the name of the bride's parents (or whomever is footing the majority of the bill). Reasons other than a death or illness in a family need not be mentioned. For example: