Photo: Getty Images
Tired of trying to please your controlling mother in law or simply can't deal with all the family drama surrounding your big day? Enter the bridal coach. Like a life coach, a bridal coach is there to give you advice every step of the way, help you handle the stress and set and achieve any wedding-related goals, like telling your MIL to politely back off, of course.
"While not all engaged women will need one, those who are experiencing challenges that are creating an unusual amount of stress or limiting a bride's ability to enjoy her engagement would definitely benefit from having a coach," says Michal Caplan, certified life coach and founder of Bridal Balance, LLC. "By giving her the appropriate education, tools and support, a stressed-out bride can go from feeling at her wits end to happy and excited again about her upcoming nuptials." And after all, isn't that the point of planning a wedding anyway?
If you're still not sold, here are five reasons some brides consider calling in professional back up:
1. It will dramatically improve your relationship during the planning process.
Certified Life Coach Devin Green of Fogdog Coaching & Consulting says she provides her brides a place to vent without judgment and repercussion. "They can express whatever they want and not feel that they have to censor themselves or hold back. I also help them not just by listening, but by actually working through what's bothering them so that it doesn't continue to be a trigger." As we all know, stress can do some serious damage to your relationship if you let it.
2. You'll enjoy your big day that much more.
According to personal growth and relationship coach Dawn C. Reid, M.S., women who take advantage of having a bridal coach usually report less stress, greater control and actually enjoy their wedding much more. "Coaches serve as an objective support person, sounding board and an individual that is there only for you through the entire journey," she says. "The amazing thing is that what you learn from coaching can be used throughout the rest of your life."
3. You'll stay organized and on track.
Another reason a bride might consider a coach is to help her with time management and organization, points out Caplan. "For the bride who is having difficulty juggling all the responsibilities of life and wedding planning, a coach can be instrumental in giving her the structure and guidance she needs to successfully navigate everything she has to get done."
4. You will figure out what you want, how to ask for it and how to get it.
So many brides struggle with wanting everyone to be happy and to enjoy the wedding. But often they forget about themselves and what they want their wedding to be in the process, notes Green. "This day is about the couple, not the guests. Figuring out what you want is incredibly valuable for the wedding and moving forward in this new chapter of your life."
5. You will be able to navigate difficult dynamics.
The most common dynamics Green helps brides navigate are their mothers or mothers-in-law being either overbearing or overly involved. "I also help couples who struggle with parents who are divorced and/or remarried, plus difficult sibling relationships," she says. "Wedding dynamics are very much about communicating and managing expectations, which is something I work with my brides on often."