3 Engagement Ring Etiquette Questions You Need to Know

Engagement etiquette ring questions

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It's the most important piece of jewelry you'll ever own — which is why you want to do everything right when it comes to your engagement ring! So many couples wonder how much to spend, who should pick it out, and many other logistical quandaries when getting engaged. Here, we found answers to these pressing etiquette questions!

My boyfriend says he wants to propose to me soon — and he wants me to help pick out the engagement ring. Is this appropriate?
Definitely. In fact, 62 percent of couples now go ring shopping together. If you don't feel comfortable doing so, though, just tell your boyfriend that you don't want to do a joint shopping trip because you think it's more romantic to be surprised. Then, show your mom, your sister, and/or your BFF some photos of rings you like, and ask them to give him some guidance.

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Is it appropriate for my sister to help my boyfriend pick out an engagement ring for me?
Absolutely! You want someone who knows your style to be at his side, steering him toward the rings you'll love and away from the rings you just won't. Feel free to get as specific with your sis as you want. If you're obsessed with emerald-cut diamonds, tell her. If you've been spending every lunch break shopping for rings online, send her links to all your faves. If you'd rather have a bigger diamond with a few flaws than a smaller diamond with none, slip her that nugget of info, too. With your sister on the case, he'll get a sounding board, you'll get a ring you'll adore, and she'll have the thrill of being part of one of the biggest moments in your life. Everyone wins.

How much is too much to spend?
The answer depends entirely on your fiancé-to-be's financial situation. On average, a guy will spend about $5,229, but Justin Theroux, for example, forked over about half a mil on Jennifer Aniston's rock. As a rule of thumb, most jewelers suggest that men shell out about three months of their salary. But if he's heavily in debt or concerned about his job security, he may want to scale back. Worried your boyfriend will be tempted to go overboard? Slip your opinion into a casual conversation.

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