Going Digital: A Definitive Guide of Online Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding

Digital Wedding Etiquette

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In this digital age, we're never more than three feet from our smartphones, or our iPads, tablets and laptops. Life is just easier with everything a click away. But when does ease trump tradition when it comes to your wedding? Here, we give you what can — and what never should — go digital for your big day.

The Dos:

Save the dates: Not every bride chooses to formally announce her wedding date, but for those who do, it's totally fine to send those digits digitally. In fact, many online e-vites allow guests to add the event to their Google calendars in a single click. How convenient is that?

Invitations to engagement parties and other pre-wedding celebrations: If you're hosting an extravagant engagement party, paper invites are still the best way to go. But if your engagement party doubles as a backyard barbecue, an emailed invitation will share and showcase the casual vibe of the occasion. Be sure to still address each guest by name, though — no group emails allowed!

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Wedding invitation replies: While your invitations should always be paper (see our don'ts section below), it's nice to give your guests the option of RSVPing by email. Add a sentence to the bottom of your reply card with email instructions: "You can also reply by email: anneandjohn@rsvp.com."

Out-of-town guest information — think lodging, directions and more: Brides often stuff their invitations with hotel contacts and maps for their out-of-town guests. Save the paper and the hassle by sending a group email to out-of-towners, which can include information on hotels, restaurants, directions, points of interest and more. Guests can print the information if they choose, or simply pull it up on their smartphones when they arrive in town.

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Wedding announcements: Notes sent to friends, family and business acquaintances unable to attend the wedding can be sent by email. You can include links to wedding and honeymoon photos in the email, or add a few as attachments.

The Don'ts:

Wedding invitations: We've conceded many great things to the digital realm, but physical invitations will never go out of style. Enjoy the process of designing them with a talented stationer, or editing them yourself with premade styles. But either way, make them special!

Thank you notes: There's nothing quite like a hand-written thank-you note. Taking the time to write one tells your guests you value both their gift and presence at your wedding.

Do you plan on sending anything digitally for your wedding? Tweet us @Brides!

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