Where Should Our Flower Girl and Ring Bearer Sit During the Wedding Reception?

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If you're working on your wedding reception seating chart, you might be wondering where to seat your littlest attendants. Should your flower girl and ring bearer be at the head table, with the rest of the wedding party? Or should they sit somewhere else? Our etiquette experts are here to answer your seating-chart questions in our daily post.

Where should our flower girl and ring bearer sit during the wedding reception? Should they be with the wedding party at the head table, or seated with their parents? What if one of their parents is in the wedding party?

Children in the wedding party usually sit with their parents at the reception rather than at the head table. Or, they can be seated at the designated kids' table, if you're having one at your reception. There's often a lot of action going on at the head table—people getting up and down, guests coming to chat with the newlyweds, toasters standing to give a speech. Since there will be a lot going on, the children might not be as tended to as they should, so it's better for everyone involved if they are seated with the parents, where they will be comfortable.

If just one of the child's parents is in the wedding party, then try to seat the whole family at the head table so that family members aren't split up. If the seating plan cannot accommodate the extras at the head table, then it might be wiser to seat the family at a separate table (with their friends or other family members), even if the mother is a bridesmaid or the father is a groomsman. What's important is to come up with a seating solution where the kids (and their parents) will feel most comfortable, and if you're unsure where to place everyone, just ask—they will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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