Is It Appropriate to Open Wedding Gifts Before the Big Day?

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Now that your wedding day is approaching, you're probably begun to receive some wedding presents in the mail. But are you supposed to wait to open the gifts until after the wedding day? Or is it appropriate to open them beforehand? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding-gift questions in our daily post.

We've started to receive some wedding gifts in the mail—is it appropriate to open them before the wedding?

Not only is it totally fine to open wedding gifts before the big day, it's actually a good idea to do so. Opening the presents as soon as you receive them in the mail means you can get a head start on handwriting your thank-you notes, which usually becomes a daunting task for newlyweds post-wedding. For gifts sent before the wedding date, you should ideally send a thank-you note within a few days of a gift's arrival; thank-you notes are not only an expression of gratitude, they're also a way to confirm that 1) you received the gift and 2) it didn't get misdelivered or stolen from your doorstep. Believe it or not, some friends and family can get a little anxious about whether their wedding gifts were received. So try to send a thank-you card within a few days of receiving the gift. But if that's simply not possible, mail the note within three months of receipt (and no, you don't have a year to send your thank yous—that's a total wedding myth!).

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