Should We Send Wedding Invitations to Our Parents and Attendants?

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Your parents, bridesmaids, and groomsmen have more than likely been involved in the entire wedding-planning process, which means they obviously know when and where your wedding will be held. So do you need to send them an official wedding invitation? Wouldn't that be redundant? Or is it a required formality? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding invitation and stationery-related questions in our daily post.

Do I have to send wedding invitations to our parents and attendants?

Sure, choosing to not send invitations to your wedding-party VIPs means less work for you—fewer envelopes to stuff, address, stamp, and mail. But even if you're tempted to skip them, definitely send your wedding-party members and parents an invitation. Proper etiquette dictates that invitations should be given to everyone invited to the wedding, no matter how close a friend or relative they are or, as in the case of members of the wedding party, if it is implied that they are already coming. You don't want them to feel left out in any way! Chances are most of them will want an invitation as a keepsake to remember the day, anyway. (Many brides even mail one to themselves, so they have a stamped, addressed invite for their wedding scrapbook!) So who else should absolutely get an invitation? Everyone who received a save-the-date card and those who were invited to gift-related parties, like your bridal shower and engagement party. It's extremely impolite not to also invite them to the wedding.

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