You + Your Wedding Guests + Facebook: Digital Do's and Dont's

Randi Zuckerberg Digital Wedding Advice

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From Pinterest-planned surprise weddings to our very own social media-driven crowd-sourced wedding, it's no secret that a bride's wedding day is becoming increasingly digital. To sort through everything from social media etiquette to digital save-the-dates, founder of Zuckerberg Media and digital-lifestyle Web site Dot Complicated weighs in on how to communicate with your guests—and how not to.

DO consider a digital save-the-date. The actual wedding invitation should always be paper, but a digital save-the-date is eco- and budget friendly. My husband and I made a private YouTube video. People loved it!

DON'T send "non-invites." There's this messed-up new trend of couples mailing out cards that say, "I'm sorry, but we're having a small wedding and you're not going to be invited," so recipients aren't surprised when they see photos online. It's a double smack in the face! Pick up the phone and call them. That's an order.

DO set social-media boundaries for everyone else. If you don't tell anyone the rules, you can't get mad at your bridesmaid for live tweeting your dress fitting.

DON'T use social media for thank-you notes. Again, your wedding is a time to go retro, so stick to snail mail. That said, if you're a modern girl who loves customization, try a Web site like Minted, where you can do adorable cards with your photos.

DO use social media to give your guests guidance on the dress code. I have no idea what "Napa chic" looks like. If you're going to get creative, make a Pinterest board so invitees know what in the world you're talking about.

—As told to Devin Tomb

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