We Already Live Together—Do We Need to Have a Wedding Registry?

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If you and your groom are already co-habitating, you may feel like you already have everything you need. If that's the case, should you skip the wedding registry altogether? Our wedding-etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

We already live together—do I need to have a wedding registry?

Traditionally, a wedding registry serves two purposes: to give guests who would like to buy you a gift some helpful guidance, and to help a newlywed couple set up their first home together. These days, when the couple already lives together, the idea of "furnishing the marital home" may seem dated, but guests will inevitably want to give a gift. So unless you want to end up with a ton of stuff you don't like or need, it's a good idea to provide guests with a registry. But skip the basics since you already own them and register instead for items that meet the following criteria:

Upgrades and extras
Think of this as an opportunity to upgrade some of the stuff you've been "making do" with. You could ask for beyond-the-basic dishes, a full set of matching wineglasses, better quality pots and pans, the juicer you didn't want to fork over the cash for, a fancy Dyson vacuum, or just about anything else you'd like to improve on. Plus, there are also those items which you'll always need more of in the future, like extra towels and sheets.

Practical necessities and fun stuff
Think beyond the kitchen, bedroom, and bathroom and register for all those practical-yet-random items you'll need on an occasional or day-to-day basis: stainless-steel garbage cans, a complete set of tools, gardening equipment, a compost bin, a good-looking laundry hamper. And don't forget to add some just-plain-fun items that would be nice to have and enjoy as a couple: classic board games, DVD box sets of your favorite TV shows, a pair of tennis rackets, a tent and a pair of camp chairs, cookbooks, travel guidebooks to help you plan your next vacation.

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