What Should I Tell My Fiancé's Mom To Wear to Our Wedding?


The mother of the bride and mother of the groom should look (and feel) beautiful on their child's wedding day! Many, however, feel that their options are far more limited than those of brides or even bridesmaids. What should you say if one of them comes to you asking for some dress-shopping guidance? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to help answer your moms' attire questions in our daily post.

My fiancé's mom asked me what she should wear. What should I say?

According to traditional wedding etiquette, because the mother of the groom is not a part of the bridal party, she should avoid choosing a dress in the same color as the bridesmaids' attire, the mother of the bride's dress, or the wedding gown. Instead, she should pick a shade that is flattering on her but will not clash with the other women's clothing in the wedding photos.

Traditionally, when it comes to the moms' outfits, the bride's mother selects her attire first, then calls the mother of the groom to advise her on color, fabric, and length choices. You might also provide guidance for both moms—offer suggestions on accent colors that coordinate nicely with your overall palette, or provide a fabric swatch of the bridesmaids' dresses for comparison.

Pale pinks, greens, and blues (navy, especially!) are all popular colors; black is usually reserved for the most formal receptions. But ultimately, she should select a style that reflects both the time of day and the overall formality of the wedding.

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