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Of course you want your fiancé to have a say in your wedding style and planning! Groomswear is, believe it or not, just as important as your wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses. Some brides would love their grooms to have an active interest in details like boutonnieres and suits, after all. But how do you handle a groom-to-be who wants to inject a little too much of his personal style into his (and his groomsmens') wedding day look? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your groom questions in our daily post.
My soon-to-be husband, who is from Texas, wants his groomsmen to wear cowboy hats. We are having a formal wedding in New York, so I think they are going to look ridiculous. It's the only thing he's asked for since we started planning the wedding, but I mean, come on. Can I say no?
Sure, if you want to ignore his ideas and feelings and start your marriage with a wedding that is all about you. Obviously, his background is important to him. Allowing him—nay, encouraging him—to incorporate some elements of his personal history will help set a precedent of partnership and fairness for your union. That does not mean you can't lay down a few ground rules (neutral palette, good; red snakeskin, bad). As long as the rest of the wedding is formal, the only thing that the hats will telegraph is that you're in love with a Texan—something you're supposed to be celebrating anyway.