Who Should I Tell First About My Engagement?

Engagement Rings, Etiquette

What is the first thing you should do after you get engaged? Call everyone you know, of course! Once the excitement of the engagement ring and the romantic proposal winds down, it's important to tell immediate family before the news leaks on social media and they instantly become the last to know. Who comes after them? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your engagement questions in our daily post.

Who should I tell first about my engagement?

Many men plan post-proposal surprise parties for their new fiancées so that family and friends can start celebrating right after she says yes. If this isn't the case, your parents and his should be the first people you tell about your engagement. You don't want them hearing about it from another person—even if that other person is a grandparent, sibling, or aunt. Second-hand engagement news is one of the worst kinds of news for a parent. Even if they knew when and how it was going to happen, they'll want to be in on your immediate reaction and happiness!

If you can't tell them in person, call them. Sending an email is fine to announce your engagement to your friends, but your parents—especially if you are expecting them to help pay for the wedding—deserve a phone call, and as soon as possible.

After you tell both sets of parents, you can see, call or email anyone you are close to and share your exciting news: grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, close friends.

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