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Ah, the fine art of delegation. When it comes to wedding planning, it can be hard, but it's also absolutely necessary. And if your maid of honor happens to be the helpful sort (of course she is!), then here are four things to put her in charge of right this second:
Assembling the Wedding Favors: Yes, you want them to be perfect. And yes, you have a vision for how every tiny box of Jordan almonds will be tied with a blue bow, but guess what? Your best friend can also tie perfect bows on the favor boxes. And she probably has a little more time on her hands than you, too. Ask her to join you at the craft store. Pick up all the materials and let her go to town on assembly. (Believe me, coming from a bride who, herself, was still tying bows on favor boxes at midnight the night before the wedding).
Addressing the Wedding Invitations: Unless you have the hand-writing of a goddess and lots of time on your hands, consider asking your best friend (or a friend who has great penmanship!) to address your invitations. Etiquette experts still say that hand-addressing is the way to go (sorry, printed computer labels still read tacky to us), so your pal can save you time and stress by taking on this task for you. Just make sure you give her enough lead time to get them done, and a deadline—you want to be sure they get mailed out in a timely manner.
Choosing the Bridesmaids' Attire: Brides who have a tinge of control freak in them (I'm raising my hand) may have a hard time with this part, but trust me, if your maid of honor has a great sense of style, let her handle it. She can present you with a few season-appropriate bridesmaid dress options in your proposed color range, and you can pick. Let her communicate with your other attendants about cost and payment, as well as matching shoes and jewelry preferences. If a hiccup comes up with one of the gals, she can let you know, or (better yet) handle it so you don't have to stress.
Managing the Reception Fun-Factor: This one's a no-brainer, because what fun-loving maid of honor isn't going to cut it up on the dance floor, right? But if you're worried about the fun-factor in your reception, put your best friend on the case. Make it her job to be out on the dance floor and to encourage other wedding guests to dance and keep things lively. After all, you want your wedding reception to have a fun vibe, and she can help that happen (and, the best man can get in on this too). In addition, if you're hiring a DJ, and if you are in sync on musical tastes, consider asking her to keep an ear out to what the DJ is playing. If the music gets a little too fast (or a little too slow), ask her to check in with the DJ about changing things up so you don't have to play music cop all night.