Should You Send a Wedding Invitation to a Family Member in Jail?


Deciding who to invite to your wedding is usually a tough task. Whether you're limited by space, money, or location, some people, even family and friends, might eventually get cut from the guest list. If that's not your concern, how do you handle inviting a family member you know won't be able to attend your wedding regardless of these limitations? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your family and guest questions in our daily post.

My fiancé's brother will be in jail at the time of our wedding. Do we still send him an invitation?

No matter how badly you may want them to be there for your wedding, there's always a guest or two who just can't make it: They're stuck on a Navy destroyer, in a nursing home, sick, or in maximum security. Even if there's no chance he'll get out (short of a last-minute jail break), send him an invitation and include an extra note expressing how much you'll miss him, if you feel so inclined. Even though you both know the answer, it's a time when it's truly the thought that counts. He's part of the family regardless of his situation, and probably doesn't want a wedding invitation snub on top of any other issues he is dealing with. It's just a nice, thoughtful gesture that lets him know you wish he could be there.

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