Can I Ask An Overweight Cousin To Be A Reader Instead of a Bridesmaid?

Bridesmaids, Etiquette
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Sure, you want all of your bridesmaids to look cute and coordinated in the dresses you've chosen for (or with) them. But should you be expected to accommodate a bridesmaid that can't fit into your selected dresses? Not all styles fit all body types, after all. What's a bride to do if her dream dress isn't flattering on all of her 'maids? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your bridesmaid questions in our daily post.

I love my cousin, but she's really overweight and I'd rather that she be a reader than wear the supercute bubble dresses that I've chosen for the bridesmaids. My sister thinks I'm being a control freak, but I want my day to be perfect. Who's right?

Your sister. Think about how you would feel if someone told you that you couldn't be a bridesmaid because your hair is blond and the bride wants only brunettes. Then think about how much more it would sting if it stemmed from a sensitive issue like weight. If you and your cousin are close, ask her to be a bridesmaid, and think about tweaking the dresses—that bubble style that you like so much may also come in an A-line silhouette that would look more flattering on her. Ask her what style of dress she likes wearing most, and go from there. It's your wedding, but remembering family and friends' feelings will always prevent you from turning into the dreaded Bridezilla.

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