Can I Write "No Boxed Gifts" On My Bridal Shower Invitations?


Wedding registries and bridal shower registries are a great way to ensure your guests get you gifts that you actually want and need. However, some couples don't require additional housewares because they already live together, they don't have the space for them, or they already have enough belongings between the two of them. Is it appropriate to ask bridal shower guests for money instead of actual gifts? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your shower and party questions in our daily post.

For my bridal shower, I'd really like cash or gift cards instead of more stuff. Can my bridesmaids or hostesses write "no boxed gifts" on the invitations?

Tread carefully: This type of language is going to make you appear both pushy and greedy. Of course you'd be thrilled to have extra cash in your pocket (who wouldn't be?), but you also should accept that this wording, however oblique, is basically a bid for bucks. If you're set on having a shower, where the spotlight is on presents, you should register: Even if you already have a furnished home, you could probably stand to replace heavily used items like sheets and towels or to upgrade to some shiny new cookware. But if you really want to skip the registry, your bridesmaids should rethink the party plans and instead organize a gathering that isn't so gift-focused. A relaxing spa day, perhaps? You shouldn't expect gifts if you do this, but you can expect to have a great time with your best girls.

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