Did A Wedding Guest Cancel At The Last Minute or Just Not Show Up? Here's What to Do

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For every wedding crasher or uninvited guest, there is a friend or family member that simply doesn't show up on your wedding day or cancels on you at the last minute. These no-shows throw off table numbers and arrangements, waste money, and are just plain inconsiderate! What should a couple do about a guest that serves up a snub? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding guest questions in our daily post.

What should I do with a guest who cancels the day before my wedding or just doesn't show up, and then gives a weak excuse?

The rudeness of seemingly nice people never ceases to amaze. A wedding isn't a book-club meeting. There's sure to be one disappointment that day: A friend whose babysitter cancels or a relative who has a travel-related snafu. Even if their excuse is truly legitimate, your guest may decide it would be better not to disturb you on the morning of your wedding. (This is why there are florists and liquor stores who will bundle something lovely to give with the bad news). If the guest still sends a gift—as is proper—your thank-you note could include a line about how you were racked with worry that something terrible had happened. This will make you feel better (and perhaps teach the guest a lesson). If you are so hurt you can't stop thinking about the slight, let the guest know it, but not in anger, nor while intoxicated. Take the high road!

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