Three Easy Ways to Personalize Your First Dance


Quite possibly the best opportunity to show off your personality as a couple is with a killer first dance. But with so many other decisions at hand—floral arrangements, what type of meal you'll serve, heck, even picking out your escort cards—finding the right song and the right moves can make choosing "At Last" and winging it when the time comes seem more and more appealing. Whether or not you want to recreate the famous scene from Dirty Dancing or not, here are three simple ways to make your first dance unique, special, and most importantly fun.

Do It with Feeling

It's a romantic moment, but you don't have to pick a classically romantic song, says Daisy O'Dell, a Los Angeles-based DJ. "Choose something that has meaning to you, even if it's the Charlie Brown theme," recommends O'Dell. "My first dance was 'If You Want to Sing Out, Sing Out,' by Cat Stevens. It's from one of our favorite films, Harold and Maude, so it felt special."

Choreograph It 

Doing the Dancing with the Stars thing can be a great bonding experience. "Just keep it brief and fun, and don't get in over your heads," says New York event planner Desiree Spinner. "No one wants to see a couple moving their lips and counting steps."

Don't Dance 

If you're not a fan of the spotlight, you can diffuse attention by inviting your friends or the kids to share the dance floor. Or upend the tradition entirely with a slideshow, trivia game, or DJ battle: National DJ company Scratch Weddings offers lessons for brides and grooms.

—Lambeth Hochwald

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