Can I Ask Guests Not to Wear a Certain Color to My Wedding?


Almost all wedding guests know not to wear white to the wedding ceremony or reception so as not to overshadow the bride. But if a bride-to-be chooses a non-white wedding dress (for example, many brides are increasingly opting for shades of pink, á la Jessica Biel), does the same rule apply? Can a bride address the issue to her guests? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding dress questions in our daily post.

Can I ask people not to wear a certain color to my wedding? My dress is a nontraditional color, and I want to be the only one wearing it.

There's no way to gracefully make that request. It cannot appear on your invitation, as it would ruin the surprise of your unconventional choice. Assuming you'll be the only one walking down the aisle with a bouquet (and possibly a veil), you can safely expect to be the star of the show, whether or not you're the only one wearing said color. Life is full of surprises, and even brides can't control everything (though we don't blame you for trying). If you're really feeling like you'll be disappointed if other guests show up in a similar color, remember this: Pippa Middleton wore a stunning, floor-length bridesmaid dress in the same ivory color as Kate Middleton's wedding dress, and even that couldn't draw all of the attention away from the future princess.

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