How Can I Seat My Remarried Parents At My Wedding So That Everyone Feels Equally Important?


Whether you're making a seating chart for your wedding reception or you're plotting details for your wedding ceremony, placement is key. Family members usually can choose where they sit during the ceremony (as long as the bride and groom's families stick to the proper sides), but more variation comes with reception seating. Many wedding guests take their placements personally. How should the child of divorced and remarried parents seat their mom, dad, and their respective spouses so that that everyone feels equally important? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your family and guest questions in our daily post.

How can I seat remarried parents so that everyone feels equally important?

During the ceremony, whichever parent raised you is seated in the front row or pew, on the aisle, along with his or her spouse. The second row serves as a buffer area, usually reserved for grandparents and siblings. The parent who did not raise you sits with his or her spouse in the third row. (If your parents are on excellent terms, they can all sit together in the front row—your mother directly on the aisle—with their spouses, or they can sit in the first and second rows, without a buffer zone.) The same order applies on the groom's side. At the reception, divorced parents can each host their own table of family and friends. Or you can seat the parent who raised you with the parent who raised the groom, and the other parents with the officiant and honored guests.

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