Where Do I Cut Off "Plus Ones" for Wedding Guests That Aren't Married?


Whether you're deciding if guests can bring children or if they can bring a plus-one, numbers matter when it comes to weddings. Is there such a things as a 'No Ring, No Bring' rule, where only married guests can bring their significant other? Our wedding etiquette experts weigh on on the notion in our daily post.

I have a few questions about the etiquette concerning guests-of-guests. I understand that one rule to follow is the 'No Ring, No Bring' rule...but not everyone follows this...If one decides to follow the "social unit" rules, what is the cutoff? How does one decide who is in a "committed" enough relationship to bring their significant other?

My attitude is either all can bring guests or you limit it with 'no ring, no bring'. 'No ring, no bring' means if the couple is engaged or married, they are invited as a unit. I also include same sex couples who may not have the option of marrying or legal commitment ceremony where they live.

Still, there's no real one good answer. I will tell you what I advise brides planning a wedding: 1. Make a budget and decide how many people you can afford to host. 2. Make a list of the really truly "must invite" people. Add spouses and fiancé(e)s to that list. 3. What is your total number? Lower than your budgeted number? Great, now you get to add optional people. 4. Make a list of the optional people (sort-of good friend, next door neighbor, Dad's business partner, etc) and add their spouses and fiancé(e)s to that list. Have you reached your budgeted number yet? If not, lather, rinse repeat. 5. Once you reach your budgeted number, stop adding "optionals."

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