Is it Appropriate to Substitute a Non-Engagement Silver Band For an Engagement Ring?

Engagement Rings, Etiquette
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There's no "Rules of Engagement" document stating that an engagement ring has to be expensive, jewel-encrusted, or both. Personal taste, finance and other considerations cause many couples to choose a simple engagement ring—an option our wedding experts address in our daily post.

My boyfriend and I don't have a lot of money, but he wants to propose to me. Is it appropriate to substitute a non-engagement silver ring (in the neighborhood of $200) for an engagement ring? I would be happy with it, but I'm worried my family and friends would look down on such a simple ring.

Go for it. An engagement ring is any ring that symbolizes the love and commitment between you and your fiancé. So whether it comes out of a coin-operated toy dispenser or from the chicest jeweler in your town, all that matters is that you love it. And, yes, it is possible that a few judgy family members and friends will be a little, well, judgy about your simple silver ring. But who cares? If we had to choose between getting married to our soul mate this year or waiting years for him to save up for a rock that might live up to their standards, we know what our choice would be. Besides, there's nothing to stop him from upgrading you to the diamond of your dreams as an anniversary present someday.

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