Could Texting Wreck Your Marriage Before It Starts?

relationship tips for couples about texting

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There's no getting around it: Busy brides have got to text—from the florist about a last minute reception centerpiece decision to your sister who is having a mini panic attack about the bridesmaids' shoes. But if it's your fiance you're texting with, researchers have some important advice for you before you hit send.

Yes, texting with your guy can be a great way to stay in touch during the workday (and that semi-racy message you sent him from the dressing room at Victoria's Secret did make his heart race), but here's the thing: Couples who text a lot throughout the day, about more serious topics, may not be on their way to wedded bliss.

At least, that's the message from researchers at Brigham Young University whose study on relationship satisfaction and texting habits was recently published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. They found that when couples resorted to their smart phones to communicate about important things (like apologizing, settling that spat about the honeymoon destination, or making a decision about, um, whether to send a wedding invitation to his entire extended family from Minnesota to the wedding) they were more likely to report dissatisfaction with the relationship.

And an interesting takeaway: While women in the study tended to report more dissatisfaction when they texted about these bigger relational issues, men tended to report more dissatisfaction when the frequency of texting increased.

Maybe time to put the smart phone down and meet him for lunch?

Sarah Jio

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