Can We Ask for Money for Our Honeymoon Instead of Creating a Wedding Registry?

Etiquette, Honeymoons & Destination Weddings
Honeymoon registry etiquette

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If you and your future husband are already living together before you get married, you don't have to worry about post-wedding house hunting or picking a china pattern. Chances are, a wedding registry probably doesn't seem necessary at all. How do you figure out a way to ask for gifts that you don't already have? Can you ask for money for a honeymoon, or is a honeymoon registry more appropriate? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding registry questions in our daily post.

My fiancé and I have lived together for six years, so we already own a ton of stuff. What we really want is money for our honeymoon. Is there a polite way to tell our guests?

You don't have to ask for cash. Thanks to modern technology, guests can easily "give" you honeymoon experiences. After you and your fiancé choose a honeymoon destination, make a list of what you need help paying for and pick some activities you wouldn't otherwise splurge on—think sunset horseback rides, the most luxurious couples massages, zip lining through the jungle, you get the idea. Then, sign up for a site like, where you can create a travel wish list, with items like "$75 toward airfare" and "surf lessons for two" and spread the word that you're registered there. Of course, a few guests (like Aunt Silvia and Grandma's bridge buddies) will insist on getting you something they can wrap, so register for a few conventional items. Consider this a chance to upgrade your towels!

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