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Of all possible wedding day groomsmen fashion emergencies—a missing tie, a bad, last-minute haircut, a major red wine spill, the list goes on—the last one you want to have to worry about is asking someone to change their personal style. If a groomsman has a facial piercing, for example, he probably loves his individual jewelry! Is there a polite way to ask him to remove his piercings, even if it's just for the wedding ceremony? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your bridal party etiquette questions in our daily post.
Can I ask a groomsman to remove his facial piercings during the ceremony?
It's your fiancé's job to address this prickly issue with his groomsman. It's your job, however, to convince him to have the talk. Casually bring up the topic by asking him how he feels about his pal's piercings. You could also try pointing out that his buddy's piercings will be distracting in the wedding photos, especially if you're aiming to get the best wedding pictures possible. But if he still doesn't care—and doesn't see the need for a chat—you'll have to back down and drop the subject. After all, if he gets touchy, think of how you would feel if your fiancé objected to one of your bridesmaid's haircuts, for example. Don't fret if your husband-to-be balks: It's better to have a minor visual nuisance than to upset your future spouse, lose a friend, and deal with a last-minute bridal party absence.