My Parents Are Paying For The Wedding, But My Future Mother-in-Law Keeps Inviting Additional Guests. How Do We Handle This?

Budget, Etiquette

Traditional thinking that the father and mother of the bride pay for an entire wedding has passed. Now, parents of the groom foot the bill for the rehearsal dinner, Sunday brunch, the honeymoon, and even part of the wedding. What do you say to future in-laws who expect your parents to cover any additional guests when budget only allows for a certain amount? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

My parents are paying for the wedding, and they can afford to invite 150 people with the guest list split equally between my family and my fiancé's family. But my future MIL thinks she should be able to invite whomever she wants, and based on tradition my father should pay for any additional guests. How do we handle this?

That "tradition" of the bride's family footing the whole wedding bill has pretty much passed. So first, give your parents a really big hug for paying for the whole shindig. Now, how to handle your future mother-in-law: She is being unreasonable and needs to be told that, but to protect your relationship with her, your fiancé should do the talking. He should express support for what your parents are doing and explain that the guest list is equally split between the two families. Hopefully that will be enough to get her to trim her list. If not, your parents, working with your fiancé, have a right to whittle down her guest list themselves. Another option is for your fiancé to go to his mother with the reception's per-person cost (including tax and gratuity). Then she can decide how important it is to her to invite the extra guests and write a check (before the wedding) to cover those costs.

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