When Does the Best Man Give His Toast? Who Else Can Give One?


The maid of honor and best man have many special duties—planning showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and writing and delivering a wedding toast are just a few. Are they the only people who can toast you and your new groom during your wedding reception? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

When does the best man give his toast? Who else can give one?

Traditionally, the best man gives the first toast at the reception, but these days the maid of honor often makes a speech as well. They are generally the only people who will deliver a formal toast during your wedding, although exceptions are made for parents of the bride and groom at certain celebrations, especially if one or both sets is paying for the event. As for timing, at a cocktail reception, wait until every guest has a drink in hand before starting the toasts; at a seated meal, begin when everyone has taken a chair (and has a drink). Your band, DJ or emcee (if you have one) should signal when it's about to start, otherwise, the best man can clink his glass for attention. That'll get everyone to pipe down and listen. The rehearsal dinner is more of a glass-clinking free-for-all, when anyone can stand up and tell sweet, sentimental or funny anecdotes about the two of you. Remind family and friends of that opportunity when they ask if they can deliver a speech during your wedding reception.

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