I Can't Ask My Fiancé For a Different Engagement Ring, Can I?

Engagement Rings, Etiquette
How to ask for a different engagement ring

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It sounds trivial, but not getting your dream engagement ring is a big deal for a lot of brides. It's jewelry you wear every day! If you wanted a platinum ring and your fiancé bought you one in white gold, can you ask him to reset it? Our wedding etiquette experts weigh in on this tricky issue in our daily post.

I got engaged about a year ago. My fiancé had a beautiful ring hand-made for me. I love the setting, the diamonds are exactly what I wanted. I get complimented on it all the time. The problem is...I wanted platinum, and he got me white gold. I only wear silver jewelry, I hate gold anything. I feel that this is something I'm going to wear for the rest of my life, and I should have exactly what I want. Am I being selfish and/or unreasonable? Should I tell him that I would like to have the ring reset in platinum?

There is no way to bring this up to your fiancé without insulting him, and there is no way to have the ring reset without undergoing a huge expense. Platinum typically costs twice what white gold costs, so you're probably talking at least a couple thousand dollars to re-set. Your future husband was smart to buy only the ring he could afford, and you should appreciate that about him.The best thing to do without hurting your future husband's feelings is get the ring dipped. If you have to get it dipped every 6 months to a year, that may be an option for you. Platinum can be very expensive and maybe it was not in the budget for him at the time.

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